Roommates 101

          One of the hardest relationships to keep are the ones of the people you live with. All I can offer is my advice backed by my 3 years of experience. I have had the worst roommate to the best back to the worst and I’d say the main culprit is knowing how to deal with small issues before they become huge blowouts. I’m currently wishing I had known how to address smaller issues sooner, but it’s also important to know the person your living with if they are going to be a friend. This may sound confusing, but in my experience “pot luck” or random roommates are not a bad option. There is very little need to have anything more than a professional situation and it can even turn into an acquaintance or possibly a friend. That being said, if you want to live with a good friend there are a lot of things you must consider. One, how well do you know that person (really), what are their living “quirks”. Two, ask yourself if you and your friends on the same page on budget, size, location, etc. it’s really important to be on the same page and to discuss it before the lease is signed. Finding the right person to live with is only the first step, living with that person is another part of this touchy situation.

      

           Living with anyone is a different situation than anyone can imagine. There is the business aspect with bills, room choice, and buying supplies (kitchen supplies, furniture, etc.). This can add a lot of strain to a friendship, so it’s helpful to have a plan before you sign and discuss how that will work. Things to talk about could be how to allocate the bills, such as will someone pay the bill and the other tenants can pay that person with cash or check, or the bills could be paid each month by alternating tenants. Next you need to consider who will bring what stuff to fill the apartment. It is extremely important to constantly keep a positive attitude and not to bring personal issues into the arrangements. The best advice I could possibly give is to truly evaluate what living situation will best fit your life. Sometimes the fun of living with your friends can overshadow the possible advantages to living alone or with a random roommate. Every situation is different and everyone has different priorities and you must make sure you make your own priorities instead of trying to alter them for the situation. 

Relationships 101

Relationships are the most difficult to obtain, keep, treasure, and let go of. It’s no surprise that it will take many more posts to come close to grasping the concept, but I feel it’s something worth discussing. 

Recently, I’ve been bombarded with relationship trouble from all my friends. It is so hard to be the friend, therapist, and man-hater all at the same time; I feel torn as to saying what is true or what will make my friends happier. In college especially this is a tough issue, because the amount of relationships that will work out are slim and the maturity level of the males are still just rounding out to the average teenager. 

I myself have been through every trial a relationship can go through; infatuation, love, hatred, heartbreak, and friendship. My experience does not make me an expert but a wiser person perhaps. I am currently in the most amazing relationship I could ever ask for, but this seems to be affecting my friendships in a negative way. I used to be able to bash men and exhaust my relationship problems with the rest of them, but now I feel that saying how happy I am just makes my friends mad. Almost all of my girlfriends are experiencing the woes of dating; from the “won’t commit” to the “relationship addict” I’ve got my hands full. I want so much to be there for all my friends, but I’m human and find myself snapping back with the truth (and sometimes the truth isn’t the best thing to say). When does a girl start charging by the hour?

            

Here's just a few ideas for some relationship advice and fun things for you and your man

http://www.guyspeak.com/?gclid=CIbnvO68sKgCFZFoKgodoktQIw

http://www.loveromancerelationship.com/

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/

College 101 and all that

I’ve been told over and over again to begin a blog. My friends and family believe I have some sort of a knack for relating to people. I never felt I had much to say, but this semester has been especially eventful and it made me think of what I know best. 

I will try to go through all of the trials of a girl in college, from the drama to the course-load. I am not saying I’m an expert by any means, but the fact is we are all looking for someone to say what we’re all thinking so we feel less alone. I hope to achieve that with this blog. I want to cover all the bases, friends, relationships, parties, schoolwork, food and diet, extra-curricula’s, working, etc. I hope to speak to the girls in the world that are trying to balance the world on their shoulders; I want to speak to my friends, sisters, and the lost. Hope you like my blog!